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*Likes girl* (Is girl)
*Likes boy* (Is boy)
*Likes person* (Is person)
*Likes nobody* (Is nobody)…
the longer I think about it the more I realize I have never actually been in love with someone
this isn’t a sad thing or anything btw I’m aroace and recently I was rethinking it but the more I think about it it’s like ,,, idk
I’ve never felt that true, raw connection w someone like other people have when they met The One
I catch feelings, sure, but they don’t feel ,, idk as deep??? as they would’ve been it’s strange
it’s either the autism or the orientation and honestly I’m not in the mood to think about it too hard anyways
Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, y'all!!!!
Be yourself, embrace your aromanticism, and don't let anyone tell you who you are or who you should be!!
💚💚🩶🤍🖤
Am I the only one who has a few specific friends who I'm really close with and love to be around, and, if they wanted to, I'd be completely down for making our relationship into something different (romantic, queerplatonic, etc.), but at the same time, I don't activity have a crush on them or want to push for a different relationship bc what if they don't feel the same way or don't know what queerplatonic relationships are.
I want a relationship that is completely undefinable by any existing labels or words. Like, we're so close and we hug and kiss each other's foreheads and cuddle and travel and explore together, and we get along so well and have so much in common. But at the same time, our relationship isn't fully romantic or fully platonic; it's a completely separate, open-to-interpretation thing that we tweaked as needed, and we have our own boundaries and things we are and aren't comfortable with, and we respect each other in every way, shape, and form.
Am I the only aro-spec person who switches between wanting a committed partnership, be it romantic, platonic, queerplatonic, etc, and wanting to be as far away from relationships as possible?
Was I the only aro-spec person who had the experience of thinking that I had crushes growing up, but looking back, they might not have been crushes because 1. I could never or only rarely name any traits that I liked about them (and those rare times that I could were traits that I simply admired), 2. I felt immense relief when they rejected me, or 3. I just wanted to have a crush, so I chose a person and consciously decided to develop feelings for them, not knowing that it doesn't work like that?
Something I recently realized that helped me understand my aro-spec identity is that my "crushes" that I can remember weren't actually fueled by romantic attraction for the person. They were actually fueled by attraction towards the idea of dating/liking them, but not actually them as a person. I wanted to find my soulmate and as soon as I found someone that I thought fit that ideal, I would start daydreaming about being with them, but I wasn't really attracted to them as a person, just my idealized version of them and the relationship. As a result, I couldn't really name any traits about those people that I liked, aside from surface level ones like, "funny," "nice," and "hardworking." And while I was aesthetically attracted to them, I never really fantasized about kissing them or being super romantic with them (aside from maybe hand-holding or hugging), and if I ever tried, it made me uncomfortable and felt like I was violating them. Did anyone else have a similar experience or is it just me?
Did any other aroace-spec people try to write fanfiction when they were younger, but struggled to write romance/romantic scenes? Because I vividly remember trying to write fanfiction when I was younger, but not really knowing how to write the romance because that wasn't something that I felt that much. And this goes for all kinds of romantic fanfic, reader insert, OC insert, shipping, etc. I tried writing all of the above, and every single time, I was unable to write, or even sometimes start, the romantic scenes, because I just didn't know what exactly that felt like or how romantic relationships started. And even when I could get through writing fanfic, it just felt SO unnatural and weird to actually write; like not bad, but just odd, like not realistic. But somehow, people really liked it, so I guess I did something right lol
Same!! I love iced matcha lattes!! Water is probably my go-to drink, but I drink matcha almost everyday soooooo
ok so i got it aroace people love to eat garlic bread, but what do y'all like to drink ? i'm curious
for me I prefer iced coffee or iced matcha latte. anyone else ?
Idk if I'm the only aro-spec person who is like this, but I need to talk about it bc it's been on my mind so much lol
So, like...in general, I have a complicated relationship with romance. In fiction (books/movies/tv/fanfic), I only really like queer romance. Two guys? All for it! Two girls? All for it! NB person with someone else? All for it! Granted, there will always be exceptions and romance stories that I prefer more than others, but by large, I tend to enjoy most queer romance stories that I consume. HOWEVER, for some strange reason, when it comes to straight romance stories, I almost always get squicked out or uncomfortable!! AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHYYYY!!! Like, it could be nearly identical to a queer romance story, but I would still be uncomfy if it was heterosexual, and I don't know why!!!!!!
When it comes to irl romance, I'm usually either indifferent or uncomfortable with it, no matter if it's queer or straight. Like, I can usually handle it, unless they're full on like making out or smth, then obviously, I'm extremely uncomfy and averse, but if it's casual, then it's just whatever.
But, honestly, I don't know what my deal is with the fictional romance!! I've even forced myself to like some straight romance in the past, but it's always SO forced.
So, yeah, that's how I feel. Can anyone else relate, or is it just me??
I WANT A QPR SOOOOOO BADDDDD!!
I want someone that I can call my partner, but not necessarily in a romantic way. I want someone to hug and be close to. I want someone who I can listen to and who can listen to me. I want someone who shares my interests. I want someone that will agree to discuss and respect our boundaries with one another. I want someone who I can just be with, like we can just exist together. I want someone who will go book shopping with me and just listen to me gush about different books. I want someone who will walk down the halls with, and maybe we'll hold hands and maybe we won't. I want someone who will always be ready to comfort me and who I can comfort whenever they need it. I want someone who will help me calm down and think through things carefully. I want someone who I can explore and go on adventures with.
Basically, I just really want a queerplatonic partner/relationship.
They call me a triple A battery
Because I’m asexual, aromantic, and annoying as shit
Happy pride month folks
hello I have a theory that aspec people are in charge of tumblr
Adding to this, you should also be able to send flowers and candies and gifts to the people you love platonically without having people questioning your about it. Yes, I just gifted my best friend a bouquet of flowers. No, this does not mean I love them romantically.
‘You should only send hearts to ppl you’re romantically involved with’
WRONG! BOUNDLESS PLATONIC LOVE, WARMTH, AND ENTHUSIASM BE UPON YE!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
THIS!!! I have friends who are aro, and friends who are ace. I love them so much and I don't understand how y'all could even be excluded in the community. I accept yall, and I know there are many others too!
i love you straight aromantics. i love you straight asexuals. i love you straight aroaces. i love you straight aroallos. i love you straight aspecs. i love you straight aspecs who are questioning if they’re aspec or not. i love you ‘straight passing’ aspecs. you are loved and you are included and i see your pain and your struggles. you will always always always be a part of our community.
"Do you want a boyfriend/girlfriend?" no i want a best friend/roommate/soulmate that I can go on silly adventures with and hang out with and have deep intellectual discussions with and we can be life partners without any of the romance stuff
made a meme because what do you mean i’m questioning my sexuality again even tho i’ve been secure in my identity for the past 10 years 😭
Aroace who's extremely confused by their tertiary attraction call that a disoriented aroace
reblog to scare the aphobes
I playfully flirt with some of my friends constantly 😭😭😭
On a serious note, do any other aromantic people relate to wanting to platonically kiss a friend, like just on the cheek? I get that urge really often but don't want to come across as weirder than I already am. Platonic hugs just don't cut it half the time 😞
(I think I just want a queerplatonic relationship with another aromantic person but don't know how and at what age I can actually consider that)
Were any other aroaces/aros originally terrified of saying things like "i love you" to your friends because you really didnt want to come off as flirting or nah
Mae Borowski with the lithromantic color scheme !
can somebody tell me some more info about queerplatonic relationships as me and my friend are considering entering one and neither of us know much about it?????
isaac is so real tao and elle were really leaving him out on movie night
the struggle of seeing people being happy couples knowing you won’t ever be like that is so real i actually love isaac (as much as i miss aled)
i dont know if i’ve made a post about this yet but i wanted to go over my views on relationships and sex as i was rambling about it to my brother the other day
personally, i view sex as just another part of your relationship with somebody. like i will casually sleep with friends, but not all of them. some of them i will casually cuddle and stuff, but again, not all of them. it just depends on the relationship you have with them.
and when it comes to dating, again, i just view that as your unique relationship with somebody. i understand that not everybody views dating this way, and it’s a conversation to have with any future partners, but i personally would want to still sleep with and date other people while in a relationship, and would be fine with my partner doing that too. i don’t like the idea of devoting my entire body to one singular person.
Reading Loveless again:Very subtle IWBFT reference but I loved it (Georgia said she was reading a Lister x Rowan au fic(I think))
I'm currently reading loveless By Alice Osman and I personally think it's a good representation of convincing yourself and others that you have a crush (Or crushes) When you're ace/aro
Coming from your aro buddy here. It’s going to be okay if you discovered that you are aromantic. It will be okay. Even if you’re 100% sure that you are. I know that not all of you are feeling comforted by realizing you’re aro- and why wouldn’t some of us be unhappy? Society puts so much pressure on youth to seek out love and emphasizes so much that romantic love is what makes us human, that its easy to forget that its possible to be happy without it. Its easy to slip into the mindset that you are either never going to be happy, or that you are not human at all.
You can be happy without it. Its possible to live a meaningful life without a romantic partner. And you don’t need a romantic partner to know that you are not alone.