Find your tribe in a Sea of Creativity
Fuckkkk i just rememebrrd i need to add more somgs to my fuckass little mp3 player cuz they dont allow phones in my school(wackass school i hate this place bro im lucky as hell i ahvent gotten beaten up yet) and my pc gonna have spotify blocked while we have tests so i gotta listen to my (not up to date) stinky little mp3 layer
OMG YK WHAT PMO SO BAD????
so i have pretty bad social anxiety, and presenting in front of people is one thing, but presenting in front of people i’m not comfortable with/don’t know well is another. In this case, I’m presenting in front of people i’m not comfortable with or don’t know well. Sometimes while i’m presenting, i’ll be talking, then all of a sudden in the middle of saying a word, i’ll just stop speaking unintentionally. it’s like, for example, “I love Jojo’s Bizarre Adventure so mu-…” AND THEN I JUST STOP SPEAKING??? It’s like my breath gives out or something??? idk but it pmo so bad and i’m so tired of it😭
Another thing with my social anxiety is that it takes me a while to actually get started on talking when presenting something in class. I just stand there and look dumb. I look around the room and at the floor then back to my teacher and they’re just like, “It’s fine. Whenever you’re ready” and then I try again, but i just CANT DO IT. So of course my classmates get impatient and start looking at their friends with THOSE kinds of facial expressions while they wait for me to finally start talking. Then when I do the other problem I talked about before starts up☹️ idk what to do you guys ugh this is so annoying
sorry for the yap
Something people never want to talk about is how bad the hate for bkdk gets to the point where shippers feel like they have to pretend they support other ships—especially Izuocha—just to avoid harassment. Like, do you realize how messed up that is? Imagine not being able to openly talk about your favorite ship without getting dogpiled, blocked, or called slurs, unless you throw in a “btw I also support Izuocha!” as a shield. That’s not normal fandom behavior, and it doesn’t happen at this scale with almost any other ship.
Bkdk shippers are constantly told they’re delusional, toxic, fetishizing, or “forcing a queer narrative,” and then when someone claps back with “if you’re homophobic just say so,” everyone loses their mind like that’s the worst thing that’s been said. Meanwhile, people have literally had to delete accounts, private their art, or stop talking about the ship at all just to feel safe online.
So no—it’s not that bkdk shippers “can’t handle disagreement.” It’s that they’ve had to build walls and disclaimers around themselves because the level of hate isn’t just “I don’t like this ship,” it’s targeted. And if you’re ignoring that reality and only focusing on one sentence in a post that calls out toxic fandom behavior, maybe take a step back and think about who’s really ruining the fun here.
(especially in THIS FANDOM??!!)
It’s kinda telling that out of that whole post about fandom etiquette and letting people enjoy things, the only part you chose to respond to was “if you’re homophobic just say so,” like that was the biggest issue—while completely ignoring the part about how people ruin others’ fun by pushing their standards or negativity into spaces where folks are just vibing.
Nobody said “you have to like bkdk or you’re homophobic.” The point was: if your dislike is rooted in double standards or discomfort with queerness, just own it. There’s a difference between “not vibing with a ship” and making snide comments, overanalyzing it to death, or dismissing queer dynamics as “toxic” while letting the same thing slide in straight ships.
It’s wild to pretend bkdk shippers “only say ur homophobic” when most are just exhausted from defending their enjoyment of a ship that constantly gets singled out because it’s two guys with a complex dynamic. You can dislike yaoi or yuri tropes, sure, but if that dislike only comes up when it’s queer ships and you give every straight trope a pass, maybe there is something deeper going on.
Also… weird how the whole message about letting people have fun and not pushing standards didn’t get a peep from you. Makes it feel like the real goal was just to stir something instead of making a valid counterpoint.
It’s honestly exhausting how much hate this ship gets. Like—bkdk isn’t even canon, and yet people act like it’s a threat to their entire worldview. The amount of discourse, nitpicking, and obsession some folks have with discrediting or tearing it down is wild. And when someone finally says, “hey, if your dislike is rooted in homophobia, just say that,” suddenly that’s the issue? Not the constant passive-aggressive comments, not the double standards, not the targeted hate—just that one sentence? Yeah, okay.
The original post wasn’t even aggressive. It was literally just: “stop ruining people’s fun by forcing your standards onto them.” And instead of engaging with that very valid point about fandom behavior, you laser-focused on one line and made a generalized statement about all bkdk shippers like that proves something.
It’s not about whether someone likes the ship or not—it’s about how people treat others for liking it. The hate isn’t just “I don’t like this ship,” it’s full-on essays, weird psychoanalysis, constant accusations of fetishizing, toxicity, or being delusional. And the fact that this only happens with queer ships like bkdk (and not, say, ships with the exact same rival dynamic but straight) says a lot.
Disliking yaoi/yuri tropes is fine. Preferring different ships is fine. But if your “criticism” is indistinguishable from what queerphobic people say, maybe that’s something worth sitting with instead of trying to make it a bkdk shipper problem.
Edit: I could also add so many ships that have been discriminated just because they are two dudes
"gay ppl are so rude wdym you dont date me'
i will pick apart your organs and disect them before burning them along with your tongue.