Find your tribe in a Sea of Creativity
Whether in class or workplace, it is inevitable that there will always be a struggle for power (specifically social dominance), regardless of whether you want it or not. Those who are unversed risk social isolation or marginalisation in their respective environments.
The problem of taking an apolitical stance is its potential to affect you, especially an impediment to your goals/achievements. Even if it isn’t the case, it needlessly increases your liability and competency, forcing yourself to be at the highest standard of conduct all the time. This is stressful and an unrealistic expectation because no human being is perfect.
This is easier said than done. If you carry yourself wrongly, you may inadvertently portray yourself as something more unfavourable than expected.
Contrary to popular belief, you don’t need to resort violence or act like a hooligan to create such perception.
First impression matters. This is scientific. Within the first 7-30 seconds, your appearance and actions are being fastidiously scrutinised to deduce your personality and characteristics. Whether it is accurate or not, we can always manipulate their presumptions to make them think the way we want them to… such as your strong eye contact, authoritarian voice and tall, open posture.
Cause a deterrence effect. Before anyone undermines you, take the first-mover advantage and unleash fury on them. Limit the scope of the victim(s) to the minimum and the audience to the maximum. It may seem pointless to just victimise 1 person, but its effect is far-reaching to the rest of the watching audience. This is human’s instinct to learn and adapt, to prevent such nasty incident from potentially happening on them in the future.
Exert your authority. Don’t stay quiet and give in. According to the broken window theory, for every compromise that you make, it diminishes the perceived fear you instilled and immediately expose yourself to subversion. Hence, eroding your dominance.
NB: Be as original as possible. It’s OK to re-use certain phrases/actions that you’ve picked up from elsewhere, but not re-applying them to the environment with the same audience.
This is often overlooked when discussing this kind of topic. Charisma is power; leadership is authority.
Successful people are leaders; they have the ability to get people around them to help them achieve their ultimate goal. It’s not what you do; it’s why you do it -- that is what gets people behind you. They are able to articulate a compelling or captivating vision, and are able to arouse strong emotions in their followers.
Source: https://www.elitedaily.com/money/entrepreneurship/charismatic-people-successful
I’ve seen people who are ostracised due to their stern moral high ground stance. Their heartless attitude lacks empathy, which makes them more hated and excluded than those who are anti-social.
When many people like you (from any spectrum), you gain enormous amount of soft power (leverage). The leverage that you have enable you to easily seek help whenever you need and a biased defence when you are provoked.
In fact, if your charisma is high enough, you don’t need any leadership at all. Because authority comes from power, if you’re charismatic enough, you automatically have the influence of authority to the person in-charge.
This is common sense. It’s suicidal to mess up with your discipline master or your boss — generally anyone above you (seniors). Those people are in position to immediately act in reprisal, with guaranteed risk-free to retributions.
“A friend is better than a foe.”
Since so, it is worthwhile to make them your allies instead of adversaries, even if it is a need to be submissive/acquiescent to their unreasonable demands or unfair comments.
This is actually the least important, but it can be very effective if you’re affiliated with influential persons. It’s like a start boost, but you still have to build your image up from scratch, but you’ll have very high tolerance from the rest. They won’t pick on you often or as much as you would if you were alone.
Your initial affiliation is very important, and unfortunately, it’s very difficult to pick the best affiliation during the first encounter.
Remember, not everyone can dominate. There can only be 1 true dominant (can be shared) at any given time. If there’s already one, your best bet is to be the Second instead of having an endless conflict. Additionally, a defeat risks being shunned forever.
“War is expensive. Peace is priceless”
Disclaimer: This analysis is based on my personal experience in a harsh school environment. It may be different from yours and you need to apply the strategies wisely. Overuse or invalid use of strategies may have deleterious effects. You’re forewarned.
This is a very tricky question. Whenever I teach someone, my biggest concern is his/her potentiality to surpass me. It’s good if one can quickly learn and absorb knowledge – shows that your teachings are effective, but it’s bad if he/she can learn too fast, because you’d eventually be surpassed. 😝 Of course, it’s bad if one can’t learn well and don’t understand what you taught him/her – because it shows that your teachings are ineffective and useless.
That’s the reason why I hate/hesitate to teach others (my peers especially), because of their potential to surpass me if they are effective learners.
Answer: Learn from your competitor
The most common advice you’d often hear from your authority probably “Just by continuing to work hard” or “Work harder.” Unfortunately, that’s the most useless advice anyone could ever give.
There are 2 runners. Runner A is you, and Runner B is your emerging rival.
Scenario 1: You are Runner A running. Runner B suddenly appears and effortlessly surpassed you.
In this scenario, it’s clearly not of your concern. That Runner B is probably a teacher, definitely better than you.
Scenario 2: You are Runner A running. Runner B tags along behind you, but with a higher pace than yours.
This is the scenario of contention. It’s a scenario of someone supposed to be behind you, running a possibility of surpassing you in the near future.
Those who advised Runner A to “continuing working hard” or “work harder” are too simple-minded. It doesn’t solve any problems. It’s a stupid advice. If Runner A continues to “work hard” (running at same pace), he would eventually be surpassed.
The most viable approach to defend your supremacy is to learn from your competitor. Find out how he/she has an increased pace against you and nullify the difference by applying the new knowledge to yourself.
This solution isn’t groundbreaking at all… it’s quite relatable e.g. businesses. Companies learn from its competitors to improve their products or services. One such successful instance is Samsung, where it fancies copying everything of the iPhone and successfully brings in billions of dollars revenue every year.
As the Art Director for this Xbox campaign, I guided the style and direction for this piece. ( Illustration by the talented Joann Kang http://joannwkang.blogspot.com/ ) Project at: https://www.behance.net/gallery/48132853/TMNT-Out-Of-The-Shadows
Wireframe explorations I did for an augmented reality Porsche campaign that came off of a 4-page spread last summer. I helped create many design iterations (not all shown) for the game section showing all possible layouts that can work with a moving 3d space yet not block the users view.
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