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I know I'm gonna ruffle a lot of feathers when I say this, but I think this is something people don't really touch on when it comes to the topic of female modesty (at least not too often).
A big criticism I have when it comes to the topic of female modesty (especially in some ‘Christian’ spaces) is that most who speak on it often approach it from the lens of “Immodesty makes men lust.” And regardless of how true that is, lots of women roll their eyes when they hear it because lots of us have experienced harassment (and a lot of women even sexual abuse) from men REGARDLESS of WHAT we are wearing.
Whether or not the message of “dress this way and men won’t harass you” was your personal intention or not, that is unfortunately the message that has been pushed on a LOT of women from the time we could first walk by OTHER people.
Sure, clothes have an effect on how people perceive us, I’m not gonna pretend it doesn’t. You obviously can’t walk into your office job wearing a low cut halter top and booty shorts—you have to dress for the environment you’re in (durr).
But clothes definitely have not stopped people from doing what they want to do to us at the end of the day. I think the main reason why lots of women roll their eyes when the topic of modesty comes up is because we’re being told the solution to a problem that we know for a fact has not actually worked.
If people kept telling you that wearing a helmet prevents serial killers from targeting you, but serial killers kept targeting you anyway, would you be more convinced to wear a helmet? No, because wearing a helmet didn’t change anything.
Lots of women realize this reality and so I think that’s why a lot of women dress with the mindset of “I’m gonna wear whatever the heck I want because it clearly doesn’t matter what I wear or don’t wear—men are still gonna behave the same.”
I’ve gotten harassed by a male ‘friend’ who bullied me in highschool and snuck around to obtain my phone number (without my permission) so that way he could flirt with me despite me telling him to stop (pretty tame all things considered). And all throughout high school, I wore nothing except big hoodies, jeans, and sometimes sweatpants.
Modesty is important, I agree. But stop promising women that it provides GRAND changes in how men will treat them. So many women have experience that proves it really doesn’t. Because it’s not about the clothes and never will be about the clothes, it’s about the character of the men we interact with. So if the only way a man can respect a woman is if she covers herself head to toe like a box, I don’t know if I can consider him a respectable person.
Sure, modesty can help people respect you more---but stop telling women that it ELIMINATES mistreatment from men---because it doesn't. And to tell something that isn't true is a lie.
Look, I may not agree with all aspects of Catholicism, but the sexualization of nuns needs to stop.
You are actively sexualizing a group of women who dress the way they do BECAUSE they don't want to be sexualized. The sexy nun costumes are not only not cute, but deeply insulting.
Do y'all do this to women who wear hijabs?
You don't have to like the religion but that's no grounds to be straight up disrespectful.
"her body her choice" well these women are choosing their own way how to dress---stop mocking them.
I 'came back to God' in early 2023 and that encouraged me to read the Bible.
Reading the Bible made me realize that what I learned in church (or what I didn't learn) was either false or incomplete.
Looking for the truth led me to videos like these and they flipped my understanding upside down.
That verse about even the elect being deceived? This series really opens your eyes to how deceived.
I'm posting this for those who are looking for truth to find. Of course, do your own research.
This video is part of a playlist, and I encourage you to listen to them all.
And as usual, I don't argue with people online. You'll be arguing with the wall because I will pretend that my inbox is empty. Speak with the creator of these videos. He's willing to hear you out and has the knowledge and patience to converse with you.
There's nothing Biblical about attacking people.
I'm looking at you right-wing 'Christians'.
And no, I'm not American. Do not involve me in your ungodly politics.
Don’t judge a group by individuals in it. Hating entire group simply because a of a few select members is NOT a wise way to go about life. If one person makes a mistake, they deserve the consequences, not the entire group. For example, not all Christians are homophobic. Sure, there are a lot of homophobic Christians, but they shouldn’t all be judged by their religion as a whole. Similar situation when it comes to racism. There are a LOT of racist Caucasian people, but not all of them are. Just like, though there are some African American criminals, the innocent don’t deserve to be incarcerated simply due to ignorance. However, certain groups cannot be looked at with this rule, such as Nazis or pedophiles. But, for the general public, the point still stands.