Doomed By Bring Me The Horizon. Just A Very Nice Melody.

S.A. Ash - The Black Piano

Not gonna specifically tag anyone…but reblog if you feel like it and put yours in the tags.

I should preface by saying that my mother isn't actively (nor passively) homophobic or transphobic (or in my case, biphobic) in any real way.

But there have been exceptions.

When I was around 14, I said to her I thought I was bi, and effectively got "it's probably just a phase, you're too young to decide that sort of thing". This was after I had already gotten quite frisky with another boy in my year, mind you, and as someone AMAB, this has to be queer in some sort of way. But at the time I wasn't sure why it bothered me as much as it did.

I have since, and in part thanks to the queers and allies on this platform, realised two reasons it bothers me.

One: Even if it is a phase or temporary, it does not invalidate whatever your sexuality is. You are allowed to change over time, and if that includes who you're attracted to, that's fine. I had long thought "maybe I was wrong", but I had never thought "maybe it doesn't matter". I have since had complete confirmation that she's changed her mind somewhat on this issue, as she herself has admitted she feels she's currently asexual, despite previously having been heterosexual.

Two, as OPs post describes: As much as she said "I'd be fine with it if you're gay", this was very much on the assumption that by default I was straight. When I was young, heterosexuality (such as my first girlfriend) was simply accepted as "the way things are", and anything else was merely a hypothetical, or assumed unlikely. It was rarely ever, by anyone, considered as real that I might be queer until I said I felt that way. And the first time I brought it up to an adult (never my peers, thankfully), it was just

"You're too young to decide"

And that's why it bothered me so long. It was a tiny thing really, but from the person I'd relied on most for my entire life, it hurt. I don't think she thought anything of it, nor do I believe she had any ill intent or secretly dislikes gay people, but I think that most people, and even some queers, do not take young people seriously, and still assume heterosexuality to be a default.

I imagine all these thoughts have almost certainly been iterated better than I have put it, and I recognise this is really a minor thing, and not some major instance of homophobia. I'm lucky to have been brought up in an area that didn't give me much trouble for being queer.

Sorry for the very long text post, it's just my two cents. Feel free to tell me if I'm wrong or you disagree about stuff, I don't usually talk about this type of thing.

I like how teens are too young to figure out their sexuality unless its heterosexual

curious to hear y'all's suggestions for the worst possible pasta shape

(Assume that "pasta" needs to be made of sheets or strands of dough with enough surface area relative to thickness so that they can be cooked.)

spotify is raising prices again here's the apk that gives you premium for free

So I'm in France, celebrating my nan's birthday, and I decide "hey, maybe I should check the news. Maybe that would be a good idea". And the UK is on 300,000 cases a day. What the fuck. If I get stuck here I swear to whatever god is still listening I will lose my shit.

raidcore

At a party and a guy was telling me about how one of his coworkers was complaining about how he thought his dealer was lacing his heroin with cocaine and then the party guy was like “but his dealer was his brother” and I said “that’s some cocaine and abel shit” and the joke flopped so hard but I stand by it so I had to share it somewhere

Was at christmas dinner and my aunt is talking about some French celebrity I don't know about because I don't live here and just says "I was fine with her until she turned out muslim" and i genuinely was unable to speak for several minutes because it came completely out of nowhere. Just silently sat like

and my whole family just kept talking like nothing happened wtf.

I have The Big Stomach Sick, and among other things, I have abdominal cramps, and is this really what some of you womb-having human beings deal with every month? How do you cope?!!

He's got the same blanket as (and a similar expression to) my dog lol

Yes there is a second underneath; she likes her cushioning.

it’s like he knows I’m going to take his balls today