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I’ve seen several posts (and a lot of reposts of those posts) talking about the misogyny in rap music produced by men, and while I think that having a conversation about misogyny in entertainment is incredibly important, I also think it’s important to think about why we’re focused so heavily on demonizing rap music in particular.

A lot of mainstream music produced by men, regardless of it’s genre, has the same messaging of misogyny, rape culture, sexism, etc. If you read a lot of the lyrics of popular club/dance music especially, it’s hiding in plain sight. However, in a world in which white is the norm, we’re used to hearing that type of messaging disguised underneath the soothing, fun loving, catchy melodies sung by familiar voices so we sing along without thinking about the words leaving our mouths. Rap, while it’s still a very popular genre, goes against that familiar, comfortable habit of hiding lyrics and is very straightforward, and therefore our condemnation increases because it forces you to interact with the lyrics instead of shutting off your brain.

I don’t advocate for a lack of critical thinking or criticism for the genre, in fact I’m asking for the opposite. Is Rap truly the worst genre for misogyny? Because I could, and am, arguing that abusive lyrics hidden in songs that play over the speakers at every establishment (and especially around children) with no issue, is just as bad if not worse. Genres such as Country, which is just as full of misogyny, are treated with a kind of “roll your eyes and get over it” attitude. We treat it as a joke, if we acknowledge it at all. Those silly, backwards folk living in a cornfield town don’t know any better, really.

Socially, we also forgive and forget about male violence much quicker when the man is white. I’ve watched people blow up angrily about a white man’s crime and after 6 months it’s forgotten to the point nobody remembers it when I bring it up. However a black man in that same situation will have his disgrace last years longer. This is not me advocating in any way for everyone to get the white man treatment, but for everyone to have an accurate social reaction to the crime itself without the person’s race tainting how we view him (and by extension, those in his racial group).

Rap, while it has some serious bad apples now, has an incredibly important cultural history of pushing for social change that other popular genres in the world today do not, and it’s ironic to me that it is now seen as the most morally corrupt and oppressive genre. Associating the entire genre solely with low intelligence (both in the artist and the audience), general moral failing and filth, and a backwards view on society when there are so many rappers who have pushed for social changes harder than any other musicians, when you do not similarly condemn other musical genres, is unfortunately a case of internalized racism.

I will reiterate once again that I am not in any way saying that anyone or anything should get off scot-free or without deep criticism. Pointing out an unfair balance in how we condemn groups of people is simply that, pointing it out. I think we need more criticism but I think that criticism needs to be nuanced, complete, and informed. I would also urge you to look into smaller or more underground rappers/rap movements because there is a lot to enjoy and many good people to support when you’re able to get past the big names that do well for a reason. The majority of our culture today is misogynistic so misogynistic lyrics appeal to the general masses, and people who refuse to fall under that group don’t end up as famous as those who do.

[Edited to hopefully make my point easier to understand bc I was getting several reposts that seemed to be taking away a message I didn’t mean to put across]

Literally fixed my mental health by so much 😭😭 I didn’t realize how much forcing attraction to men was weighing me down and causing me to be out of touch with a lot of the rest of my personality because I would be constantly questioning my likes/dislikes. Now I just exist as myself and it’s amazing.

realizing I was a lesbian literally felt like this

"misandrists are just as bad" i don't see men dying at alarming rates because @/i3atm3n4breakfast said she wishes they would shut the fuck up. i don't see men being forced to cover themselves and not being allowed to speak in public. i don't see them being denied education because they're men. but yes, they are totally alike

And yet if you assume pronouns it’s also hurtful towards other people within the trans community?? This was one of my biggest issues when I used to think I was trans because it’s extremely “every man for himself” type ideology.

“I don’t like it when people check with me about how I’d like to be be treated so I’ll complain or even lash out at them.”

“Well I don’t like when people DONT check with me so I’ll complain or lash out at them.”

There’s no compassion for those of us trying to simply be respectful and accommodate you, and definitely no compassion for those within the community who have a different experience than you.

Also what type of work environment is allowing miniskirts? I have never found a job in my life that allows that so far, and never known a woman who wished to wear one to work.

This is in fact what everyone is thinking, yes. And policing language more won’t make it stop.

I love old media warning society of ✨ dangerous butches ✨ bc it’s always

“this woman WILL wear mens shoes and will STEAL YOUR WIFE”

“butch dykes are HANDSOME and GOOD IN BED”

“you WILL be seduced and they have a HIGH SUCCESS RATE”

“they prey on women DISAPPOINTED IN MEN and give them WAY MORE ORGASMS”

“DON’T let your loved ones receive LOVE from AFFECTIONATE LESBIANS”

It would be quite silly indeed to get too hung up on potential power imbalance between Caitlyn & Vi when the show has a solid 7-10 minute supercut's worth of Caitlyn spluttering her little token protests before immediately doing exactly whatever Vi just told her to do.

Took me forever to get to this 😭

Favorite Color: I like all of them tbh and it’s constantly changing but my current favorites are darker tones of red and blue

Currently reading: Nothing 💀 dyslexia is a bitch so I haven’t started any books recently. Something I’d really like to read is The Anarchist Cookbook tho

Last Song: “Cherry-Coloured Funk” by Cocteau Twins

Last Movie: Porco Rosso, Studio Ghibli

Last Series: Arcane

Sweet, Savory, Spicy: Savory, I love spice but I have to be particular what I use or my brain just registers it as pain instead of a flavor :(

Craving: Don’t have any bc I’m always nauseous when I get colds. I’m craving for the cold to be over lol

Tea/Coffee: Apple Juice

Currently working on:

-Developing a plot and atmosphere for several lesbian paranormal/fantasy novels/Novellas I’ve been working on

-Making sustainable eco-friendly knickknacks for my house once I move out in a few months (making baskets from recycled materials, cleaning rags from old clothes, grocery bags from old tshirts, etc)

-My battle jacket, I finished the political patches and I need to make the band patches and also get my hands on some spikes

-In a similar vein, I want to diy some of those spikey bracelet things but obv I also need spikes for those

rules: tag nine people you want to get to know better

Tagged by @indrid-hot - thanks a bunch!

Favorite Color: A nice, warm, sunny orange - but also honestly most other colors of the rainbow and then some.

Currently Reading: The Tevinter Nights Dragon Age short story collection.

Last Song: L'appuntamento - Ornella Vanoni

Last Movie: Ah, gosh. HM. I haven't watched anything that's not a TV show in a while. I semi-voluntarily caught the last fifteen minutes of Scrooged over the winter holidays I guess?

Last Series: Last series I watched any part of is, as always, "Emergency!" because I will never not be stuck in 70's paramedic hell. If we're talking new-to-me shows, a friend's making me watch Grey's Anatomy (early seasons) once a week, probably because observing my growing despair about the characters' poor life choices is fun. I don't even normally watch medical shows, and yet here we are lol

Sweet, Savoury, Spicy: Savory if I had to pick

Craving: Some good spaghetti with olive oil and obscene amounts of lightly toasted garlic.

Tea/Coffee: Yes please, lol

Currently working on: OH BOY WHAT A QUESTION.

Spinning: Gotland on my spindles (4-ply, one single per spindle, for funsies - except I accidentally mixed up which bits of fiber go with which single on which spindle, so that'll be fun to sort out...), 7oz/200g of red Merino on the wheel (for a crochet hat, followed by 9.5 oz of red and black Merino for a woven scarf). But also 24.5oz/700g of grey Merino. And cotton on the supported spindle. And I've got some laceweight viscose on the mini turkish spindle that I should really work on...

Crocheting: Half a dozen things, including a lacy collar that needs buttons and blocking, a gigantic star-shaped wrap-around shawl, an incredibly boring granny square top for my little sister, and too many others to count.

Art: The Emergency! tarot as the eternal never-ending WIP; I also have some Dragon Age Veilguard related plans revolving around the Grand Necropolis and irl Catacomb Saints and I'd love to get some DA-style tarot cards done for all my player characters.

Writing: I still have a couple unfinished fanfics that need another chapter, as well as two deeply self-indulgent OC/Emergency! crossovers that friends are making me write, and I also have some Dragon Age stuff in the works - though if anyone will ever see that is another question entirely.

Music: Practicing various stuff for LARP; also slowly chipping away at Hozier's Work Song because my partner asked nicely.

With no pressure, I will tag: @geminyde, @caseyscraftycorner, @swords-n-spindles, @alpacazappa, @rosesonneptune, @rose-of-pollux, @zooarchaeologyatdinner, @kalikatze aaaaand I can't decide on a 9th person to tag so whoever wants to do this: You're It!

love calling myself a dyke like yes i am the mean and scary lesbian they warned you about on tv

How do I explain the amazing feeling of watching a new piece of media that represents something I am, and then the subsequent despair when people associate that group ONLY with that character.

20, Butch Lesbian, Feminist/Radical Feminist.

I base my opinions off of facts and my own lived experiences, but I do try and balance with empathy for an individual’s lived experience.

Gender critical= I don’t believe in gendered behavior, either that you must do certain things that correspond with your biological sex, or that doing certain things means that you are a certain gender

Gender critical =/= I think that women are weak, should be forced into childbearing, or that GNC people should go die in a hole after being unloved their entire lives. That’s actually the complete opposite of being GC.

I am heavily critical of a lot of things but I don’t stand for harassing individuals under those groups simply for their existence. That includes religion, political ideology, or how they choose to identify themselves. However if you are, with words or actions, expressing a harmful idea, I will disagree with you, or ignore you if it’s too stupid and I don’t have the energy for it.

I do not misgender, deadname, or otherwise directly disrespect individuals identities to prove a point, I find that stupid and cruel.

Might be surprising but I do spend time outside of the house doing community work and I’d suggest you do the same.

Also I’m always up for a chat if we’re mutuals or if you’ve got any (respectful) questions for me.

"Rape me daddy 🤤😫" No dude you don't want ACTUAL rape, you want some sick ass fantasy that you've consented beforehand

If you want to be actual raped then you're genuinely sick and need to go to therapy

Rape literally makes girls kill themselves out of shame, rape gives girls PTSD, rape makes girls feel "unpure" even tho it wasn't their fault, rape + abortion ban makes women carry their rapist babies, rape ruins women's life's. You do not want that

Adding onto this, “No Ethical Consumption Under Capitalism” started in the punk community/more radical leftist spaces (to my awareness) as a way to call awareness to the hidden exploitations of capitalism and urge you to look more deeply and be responsible with your actions. Sure that $65 shirt can be greenwashed and said that it was sewn in an ethical factory with well-payed workers and environmentally positive policies, but where did they get the fabric from?

It’s supposed to be a call out against the system, but then it somehow got twisted by shein-guzzlers to excuse their actions. It’s supposed to be, “The system is so fucked that we’re forced to rely on slave labor at every turn whether we like it or not, so let’s call it out and push for change and do what we can.” Not an excuse to joyfully profit off of the underpaid labor of thousands and claim that we’re all on the same level.

Leaving the house to get your Temu parcel from the mailbox and wallowing in porn is not actually fighting fascism so jot that down

I’m currently on dating apps and have been very frustrated to find out how true this is. The amount of, “Just a doggy with no brain :3 I want to be tied up and then jacked off UwU” transfemmes I’ve come across is crazy. And I’m not on kink apps, just the usual (Hinge, Bumble, HER, I’m not even on tinder). It’s also really frustrating because I already have the fact that I’m not kink friendly in my bio so I wish they’d stop liking my profile and leaving odd messages.

I’ve also gotten a lot of trans men? Despite the fact I have “lesbian” in my bio, which confuses me because if you believe yourself a man, and I am a person only attracted to women, wouldn’t that make you feel invalid?? Confuses me.

Just an observation. Why are such a significant amount of trans people (specifically TIMs) so engrossed in fetishes? Why is ‘puppygirl brat transfem’ so common? I’m supposed to believe it isn’t a fetish for 75% of them when the most popular trans-identified creators on twitter and tiktok post fetish shit. And I wondered this when I was a TRA too.

free my girl she did all that shit but the fandom is mischaracterizing her for it

“After almost dying of influenza, prolapsing my right lung, wasting away in bed, recovering, drinking 19 gallons of absinthe and snorting pure cocain, I finally realized this!!!”

And it’s literally something I realized when I was 14 and in a literal cult based out of Christianity in which I was only allowed to read the Bible (not exaggerating) because I had a brain and I used it.

male philosophers are unbearable. So shallow yet theyre so praised to the point people will fucking worship them

Me when I fall down the stairs due to my fainting disorder

the terf terfed terfily down the staircase

What I would giveeeee to have a woman do this to me 😭😭😭

Love being possessive but not jealous like yeah babe you can talk to her, you can hang out, just let me give you a hickey, leave my lipstick on your cheek, i know you’re mine, so does she and i know she can’t have you like i do so why would i worry

call us ugly to sell us shit!

no the female character who is a masculine woman is not secretly a transgender man and yes you saying that she is is misogynistic <3

I want to write but I have only vague ideas about lesbian stories and I’ve been burnt out about writing for years now and I have dyslexia and I have no idea how to get my ideas onto paper when they look so beautiful in my head 😭😭😭😭 send help

I hate when people (men or male-centric women) try to claim, “And they’re both the same bc it’s impossible standards 😔💔” NO TF IT IS NOT.

Wanting a literal underage-looking (or actual underage) sex slave and personal maid is not the same thing as wanting a competent and compassionate partner. Just look at lesbians. Lesbians literally act like how most male characters in those types of escapist romances act, (NOT the weirdo alpha bro shit but the normal stuff). We take care of each other on our periods. We prioritize each other’s sexual pleasure and health. We’re kind and soft and actually like to spend time with each other outside of sex. We take interest in each other’s interests. Don’t let men fool you into believing that’s some impossible standard of kindness. It’s the men that won’t grow tf up that’s the problem, not your desire to be treated like a fucking human being. Chocolate is $3 at the grocery store and a massage takes 10 minutes. Do better.

I want to kiss my girlfriend, in public, without fear. (ca. 1980)

I see this right after posting the original picture??? Blessed

Caitvi, Butchfemme

I love vampirism as a metaphor for being homosexual and how our sexuality is seen as inherently predatory when it shouldn’t be, I love vampirism as a metaphor for obsessive and destructive love, I love vampirism as a metaphor for mental illness, BUT I also present vampirism as a metaphor for physical chronic illness.

The constant ache and hunger that will never, ever go away. You learn to live with it but sometimes it becomes overwhelming and causes you to lash out because you just can’t stand it anymore. The cycles of telling yourself you’re fine, of being able to make your peace with it, followed by the violent despair of knowing you will never know a life again without this pain and suffering. Slowly forgetting what it was like to feel normal. The ways you cope with and abate the pain are constantly demonized by those around you so you go as long as possible before giving in to what you need to survive, only for the waiting to worsen the effects so you need even more once you give in. Being seen as weak or worthy of ostracism and ridicule for something that was completely out of your control.

As someone who’s had chronic pain (and other symptoms) my whole life, the character archetype of someone being changed into a monster against their will (vampirism, werewolves, etc) has always spoken to me for that reason. Like I get it, sexy alpha werewolf claims you blablabla, but I think modern literature has leaned too much into the sexy aspect of monsters and could use a lot more of the psychological horror aspect. Really having to sit with what this character has become against their will and think about the ethics of their actions, and if they can even be condemned for what they do in response when it’s out of their control. Blame that had nowhere to go. Idk I was musing that over last night as I went over some of my old WIP and it just interests me much more than the sexy monster trope

i’d be in a much better mood if i was kissing a pretty girl right now but okay

I’m not sure if I’m intersex (lack funds for medical testing at this time) but I have a similar problem as is outlined here that I only discovered as an adult, and it was IMMEDIATELY turned into a problem surrounding men. My health or comfort? Painful periods? Hypothetical medical complications later in life? My OWN personal comfort during sex? They acted like I was stupid to even ask.

All I’ve been given so far is be told to use those stupid plastic dilators so I can be forced open enough to be fucked by a man. Doesn’t matter how much it hurt me, or felt unnatural, or if that was even my goal in asking for medical advice (fun fact, it wasn’t. I was trying to get help for my own personal bodily comfort outside of sex). I’m incredibly thankful that soon after that nonsense I was able to unlearn comphet and realize I was a lesbian and leave all that male-centric crap and plastic phalluses behind. It was traumatic enough for me as an adult and I cannot fucking stand the idea of people doing that shit to children. Absolutely disgusting behavior.

“Female-assigned intersex kids’ vaginal canal size is also assessed by doctors, to ensure that it’s long enough to fit a penis inside of it. Doctors might surgically construct or re-construct vaginas, which can result in a host of health problems and necessitate multiple, multiple surgeries. This is especially the case since most intersex kids have these surgeries very young, and when their bodies grow into their adult forms, more surgeries are necessary to keep their vagina size in proportion. Non-surgical methods are also used to increase or maintain vaginal length by regularly using medical dildos to stretch the vagina over months and years. (It’s kind of like braces for your vagina, but much, much worse.) Just like there are no standards for how long a clitoris “can” be before it’s classified as a penis, there aren’t absolute standards as to how long a vagina is for it to be of “normal” length. I had a dilation procedure performed for almost every exam I had with intersex doctors from the time I was 8 until I was 16, so that they could check how long my vagina was as I grew. I absolutely hated these procedures. I mean, imagine a man as old as your father or your grandfather, who you don’t know, inserting a medical dildo into you each time you saw him, knowing that you can’t question the doctor’s orders and just accept that you have to undergo these uncomfortable procedures for your health. Imagine a decade or so later, realizing that these procedures did nothing to track your health, and had everything to do with grown men feeling good about the fact that you could fuck some dude someday like a “normal girl”. That all those traumatizing procedures weren’t actually medically relevant at all, and it actually was within my right to refuse those examinations. I didn’t know any of that at the time. I also had no idea that I wouldn’t want to ultimately have the kind of sex they assumed I’d be having, adding yet another layer of this-was-totally-unnecessary/messed-up to my history. Other kids shouldn’t have to go through this. Other adults shouldn’t have revelations some day far into the future that what was happening to them WASN’T okay, and their traumatic feelings ARE valid, and the whole system of how intersex people are conceptualized and “treated” IS entirely fucked. And it’s gotta change. We’ve gotta change it.”

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—-Claudia at Autostraddle

I just read this article and was reminded once again how invisible the intersex community often is… we need to signal boost this shit to let people know that this kind of “medical treatment” is NOT okay.

(via bossybussy)

Felt straight-up ill reading this. This is the institutionalized rape of children. It’s beyond unconscionable that procedures like this are normalized and considered “treatment”.

(via thaxted)

jfc

(via stammsternenstaub)

Revolting and repugnant.

See why intersex folk don’t like their medical issues being used as a rhetorical gotcha?

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Unfortunately I am a pathetic butch and I have to just accept it. Somehow I love providing, protecting, and spoiling people but I will also cry if you kiss me and be a complete sappy fool and I have to learn to live with this duality 😔

yes i want to know your favourite color, how you like your coffee made, what music you like or what fictional character you like best. but let me ask you how do you want to be loved, if you think soulmates are real or should i just outwardly admit that i want to love you on purpose, what makes you you, what poem always brings you to tears. i want to know what love is to you so i can do just that and even more, i want to see you, inside and out, and i crave to be seen as well.

Update!!!

I did have my crashout and I cried in the bathroom at work!!

I’m abt to hit the crash out phase I can feel it approaching