Potatocrisis - This Is Not The Vibe

Let’s talk about sharing information on the Internet. Some of y’all don’t seem to know basic Internet safety, and it shows. In the last two days, I have witnessed seven different blogs become the target of bullies, and what do they have in common? They have DNIs that include their triggers. Hell, even I listed mine at one point. While including those may seem like a good idea at first for followers so that they can tag continent that is particularly triggering toward you, it is a double-edged sword. Let us use an example.

You have snakes as a trigger warning. Your mutuals know to tag posts that include snakes so you can filter them. But the second that someone doesn’t like you, the moment you do something to piss them off, they can use that information to hurt you. Suddenly, your inbox is full of images of snakes. Even if you have anon turned off, it is so easy to make another Tumblr blog that isn’t blocked and you can simply dump shit on.

Another common thread between these blogs is that many of them had other social media accounts linked such as Instagram, which uses the location of their users when tagging photos. Boom. They have your location. And if you are a minor, you become a target of creeps. This is exactly what happened to a blog I was made aware of because it was getting so much anon hate and being doxxed.

Even though I have an extensive DNI, I am starting to wonder if they do more harm than good. If someone is pissed off at you, do you think they’re going to go to your do not interact and make sure it’s OK for them to send it to you? I have been explicit in saying that anon hate doesn’t mean anything to me unless it is said to my face, and yet I receive many anon hates a day. I am almost 26. I have dealt with bullying my entire life. That stuff doesn’t phase me, but when I joined Tumblr and I was around 16, and someone sent me anon hate, I would crumble.

Speaking of age, this is for minors: do not include your age. If you must, just state that you are a minor. Some people will act differently towards someone who is almost 18 as opposed to a 15 year old. If you include your zodiac signs, both western and Chinese, someone can pinpoint your general birthdate. It’s not smart.

So why do I care? Because after 10 years on this hellsite, I have seen a lot, and I would like to think that I have learned something. And as someone who has dealt with private security in a sense, I am increasingly concerned. It is not the fault of individuals who share private information when it is used against them. That is entirely on an abuser. But it does make it a hell of a lot easier.

Tumblr is horrible with its anti-bullying policy. Tumblr will not take down anon hate or go after people who send death threats. They don’t care. I wish that using anonymous was a privilege, and it was something that could be taken away. There should be more safety measures and reprimands for people who pull this shit. But until then, we can only try to be safe on our own.

For more unsolicited Tumblr vet advice, see my #tumblrvetadvice tag.

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may i add

- "I'm two quarters and a heart down, and I don't want to forget how your voice sounds."

Fall Out Boy lyrics that make me feel things(part 1):

- "I don't know where you're going, but to you got room for one more troubled soul?"

- "'Til tonight do us part"

- "They say quitters never win, but we walked the plank on a sinking ship"

- "And all my thoughts of you, they could heat or cool the room"

- "The best way to make it through with hearts and wrists intact is to realize two out of three ain't bad"

- "I confessed to you riding shotgun underneath the purple skies"

- " Just off the key of reason I thought I loved you, but it's just how you looked in the light"

- "I'm a stitch away from making it, and a scar away from falling apart "

- "The glow of the cities below lead us back to the places that we never should have left"

- "We only do it for the scars and stories, not the fame"

- "Did you ever love her, do you know? Or did you never want to be alone?"

I had to run to my school because I needed to give my homework to the principal before 4:45pm. When I was running back, my gym teacher appeared and asked me to meet her kids. Then my sister appeared and told me I was in trouble because I didn’t turn in my homework by 4:45.

Taylor Swift and Fall Out Boy both have said "you are what you love", and it's such a strange lyric to me.

Taylor Swift said it in "Daylight", where she sings

I wanna be defined by the things that I love

Not the things I hate

Not the things that I'm afraid of, I'm afraid of

Not the things that haunt me in the middle of the night

I, I just think that

You are what you love

Fall Out Boy has it in the middle of their song "Save Rock at Roll"

You are what you love

Not who loves you

In a world full of the word 'yes'

I'm here to scream

I think this lyric is so wierd. I didn't understand it the first time I heard it (on the FOB song, circa 2014). I'd defined so much of my existence around being loved by other people. I thought that was what normal people wanted. Why wouldn't they? Being loved by others is a fulfilling high. An emotional rush or endorphins. The ultimate goal. Right?

But these songs both reject that attitude. They both touch the story of someone who "trouble seems to follow". This is a person who has been in the dark and has now found the light. For FOB, I think the "light" comes from music, hence the chorus and title "Save Rock and Roll". But for Swift, the "light" comes from loving someone whose love for her is "golden".

That seems like character growth for both, but not completely. FOB went on hiatus for a number of reasons, but musical differences were a part of it. They nearly broke up because of the music, but they got back together because of it too. Swift was hurt by who she loved in the past, and became jaded as a result. But this new "golden" love could prove to be just as flawed over time.

So we are what we love. Swift is a romantic. FOB are musicians. Despite how those things have hurt them in the past, they can't help it. It's who they are. It doesn't matter if those things fade away for a time, they'll always find their way back. It took me 7 years to figure that out.

You are what you love, too. So what are you?

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