Things The Types Need To Hear

Things the Types Need to Hear

ESFP: Look, I get it, you leave people in the dust because you know how crazy and all over the place your life can be and you’re also crazy scared to let somebody in just to have it end up with you accidentally leaving them and both of you getting hurt, but emotional intimacy and real depth in friendships are 100% worth it in the end and it’s the struggle and fight of a lifetime to keep them in your life, but it’s also the greatest gift and you can’t keep denying yourself that intimacy and friendship.

ISFP: I know you have a lot of great desires and wonderful dreams and they might seem too far off and too crazy and too beautiful to come true, but you have them for a reason, and you gotta stop paralyzing yourself with fear and take that first step and throw yourself into the unknown, and that’s the scariest part, I know, but we both know you’re braver than you look, and that your passion can make it happen.

ENFP: I know that the moment you hit an obstacle or two when you first start working towards that far off dream, it’s scary and it makes you want to crumble and run away to a new thing like you think you always do, but don’t! You’re miles more tenacious and capable than you give yourself credit for and you’ve got to discipline yourself and trust that your talents and optimism can and will propel you through whatever is keeping you from your goals.

INFP: I know it’s hard to feel understood and it’s easy to let yourself become bitter by the ways of the world or whatever’s happening, but closing yourself off to others isn’t going to save you the pain. You have a natural capacity to understand others that’s hard for the other types to grasp and when you stop yourself from using that talent, or use it for selfish reasons, you’re doing yourself a massive injustice.

ESTP: Listen, I totally get that the world is full of fun and interesting things and you want to experience them all, but you’ve got to remember that for a lot of the people that come along with you, they’re there to experience YOU as much as they’re there for the thing itself. Don’t let yourself forget that half the fun of anything is who you’re doing it with.

ISTP: I know you generally don’t mean to yell or be rude when your irritated and that it’s really just a passing thing and you don’t generally care all that much, but just apologize to people after you’ve calmed down! Explain it to them and that you don’t mean it! Admit to yourself that you care enough about them to try to make amends, even when you’re just being a little crotchety; it means a lot to the feelers lol.

ENTP: You’re a genuinely fun person to be around and you usually rack up a reputation for that, but just because you’re funny and witty and damn smart doesn’t mean you don’t have feelings and problems that need to be externalized, and trust me, the right people will be more than willing to talk about what’s really happening in your life one minute and go back to elaborate jokes the next without a problem. Don’t stunt your emotional growth for the sake of brevity.

INTP: It’s okay to not know what to do in an emotional situation. Like, it’s genuinely okay. If somebody’s opening up to you, half the time your presence and you listening is 95% of what they need in that moment. Don’t avoid the situations just because it causes writer’s block emotionally. Emotional availability comes with experience. You’ll learn. Just, be your goofy self and the rest will come with time.

ENFJ: You’ve got to realize that although holding yourself to such a high standard is noble and praiseworthy, that it sometimes eclipses your ability to be a good friend when that was the goal in the first place. You’re human and can’t do everything for your friends that you’d want to be able to do when they need help, and profusely apologizing and beating yourself up for it just shifts the focus off of helping your friend and turns it to you. Accept your humanity, and just do what you can. They appreciate the help, I promise.

INFJ: I know you have a tendency to feel misunderstood and want people to show you that they love you and care about you, but you don’t get to say you’re fine AND disappear on people. Either say you’re not okay and pull back, or say you’re okay and stick around long enough for somebody to see through the BS. In my experience, y'all have a habit of making things a self-fulfilling prophecy, and that doesn’t do you any good! Be forward, be honest, and just be vulnerable; they care more than you convince yourself they do.

ESFJ: I need to be straight with y'all. Learn how to talk about something other than your 4-5 current fixations. In my experience, N’s have a crazy hard time being close with you because you keep bringing the topic back to one of your current Favorite Things™, whether it be the semester abroad you just got back from or the first date that’s scheduled for two weeks from now. Expand your area of interest and you’ll find people will be much more authentic with you.

ISFJ: You have this really amazing ability to notice the small things about people and that helps you show them you care about them in these really great and meaningful ways, but you can’t let yourself overthink the small things you notice about people. One of my good ISFJ friends started poking around trying to see if alcoholism ran in my family after noticing I’d been drinking wine a lot recently. You might have an intention to help, but overthinking/overanalyzing like that and trying to involve yourself in helping can hurt your friendships.

ESTJ: Your presence is powerful and intense and that’s great at times, but you’ve got to let out your goofy fun side more, and hoe we’ve all seen it before, you’re a damn riot after a beer or two. People, in general, care more about fun than having every plan go right during the night/event. Be willing to be fun more, you’re so good at it.

ISTJ: I know you get frustrated with yourself because you want to do new things and get out there and be a fun person, but the thing is, you’re so much better at being a responsible, caring person. Befriend the chaotic, crazy, lovable rascals and let them bring the fun to you (or more often than not, drag you kicking and screaming to where the fun is).

ENTJ: Look, I’m an INTJ, so I know how hard this is to swallow, but showing you care about a person sometimes isn’t so much giving them solutions to their problems or trying to correct an issue; a lot of the other types literally just want you to listen and hear them out. And you gotta do that sometimes, babe. And shut your damn mouth while they’re telling you everything, okay? Just. Let them finish.

INTJ: For the love of all that is holy, just cry already. Cry alone if you have to, or better yet, just go to the person you’d literally murder a thousand people for and freakin’ cry about all the crap you’ve been bottling up for the past two months and accept that you can have razor-sharp rationale and be a damn human at the same time. And just admit that you’re insecure about your relationship with that person because you care about them so much and you’re not the best at trusting people.

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SIGNS WHEN ANGRY/ARGUING

ARIES: explosive. anything can trigger their anger. they’ll swear a lot, and don’t be scared when they start yelling (it’s going to be loud). they’ll also say things they will regret later on when things cool down. their temper is short but they don’t normally hold long grudges. it is best to avoid them when they are mad, for they will not see, hear, smell, taste, nor feel any reason.

TAURUS: not very quick to anger, but when they get mad, they get mad. if told to calm down, they will do the exact opposite and will begin to bash on the person who tells them to chill. will become cold and silent for a bit which could lead to exploding anger if their buttons continue to be pushed. just give them some space and time to cool down on their own.

GEMINI: aggressive. releases anger through words. normally wins arguments with reason and logic. will not listen to what the other person has to say if it’s illogical to them, and most of the time everything is illogical. if they are unable to express anger with words, they may just resort to screaming and/or throwing things.

CANCER: angry criers. normally when confronted with a situation that can result to them getting angry, they’ll walk away to avoid an argument. but if they do manage to catch the anger flu, they’ll become passive-aggressive towards the person they are angry with. if in an argument, they may just use the good ol’ waterworks to end the conflict.

LEO: just like their lion counterparts, leos will roar. the louder they can be, the better. they will swear and try to break the other person in an argument, using hurtful words and saying hurtful things. they aren’t the ones to say sorry first, if they apologize at all.

VIRGO: when first angered, virgos will try to swallow their emotions. they will hold in as much anger as possible, but when it becomes too much, they will burst. because of this, their anger is sometimes viewed as unreasonable, considering they may get angry over nothing if they hold in their emotions for too long. if greatly hurt, it may be hard to get forgiveness out of them and they can hold grudges for a very, very long time.

LIBRA: unlike most of the other signs, libras are quite calm when angry. they will be blunt and tell you why they are upset with you and will have justifications to their anger. on certain cases, they may become passive-aggressive or even have small bursts of anger, but it quickly passes. it may be hard to seek for forgiveness from them if pushed too far.

SCORPIO: you will not hear or see a scorpios anger, you’ll feel it. believing to be above getting angry and unable to stand being seen as weak when angry, they will become sarcastic and full of harsh criticism. they are mostly on the defensive side of arguments and try to avoid conflict in fear of destroying the other person. because of their excellency in controlling their emotions, scorpios will almost never explode or lash out on you. it sometimes can be hard to get their forgiveness, so apologize quickly before they think twice.

SAGITTARIUS: unable to easily control their emotions, the anger of a sagittarius may be confusing. they may become tongue-tied in their anger, or flood the other person with metaphors and weird language (like phrasing things differently). they also may become sidetracked with other emotions, and will stray away from the main reason they were angry.

CAPRICORN: there are different stages of anger. they will firstly attempt to address the things that make them angry. they will sternly tell the other person the things they have done or continue to do that make them upset. if further argued with, they may leave the scene to prevent more damage OR will gradually begin to yell, shout, and scream if pushed far enough. if you get them to the yelling stage, any forms of apologies are useless. they will not forgive, and they will not forget. it is best to apologize in their beginning stage of listing things that make them mad. listen to those things and try to change your errors if you want to continue a relationship with them.

AQUARIUS: disliking the thought of losing control over emotions, they will not initially burst. when angry, they become aloof and distance, and will most likely give the other person silent treatment. if you do not see this stage, their anger may build up. if it becomes too much, they will either continue silent treatment for a long time, or begin to yell and lash out. it is best to apologize and seek amends during the silent treatment stage, for they can be bitter after an argument for awhile.

PISCES: they truly are scary when mad. it takes a lot to work them up, for they are generally kind people. when angry, they will become violent and enraged all while crying rivers. they may sometimes blank out when terribly upset, and will throw tantrums and uncontrollable fits. after they realize what they have done, they will apologize and seek for the other persons forgiveness. they are quick to forgive as well.

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taurus way too accurate

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thoughtfullyjoyfulkitty

7 years ago

this is the money ammy. reblog for blessed funds

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thoughtfullyjoyfulkitty

7 years ago

Holy crap, your room is beautiful! And so is the kitty ^^

89, 98 and 99

89. Do you like your age?

I do. I’m old enough to be wise in some minor ways, but young enough to remember to have fun between responsibilities.

98. Color of your room?

99. Color of your bedspread?

Answering both with a photo. Do pardon the unmade bed. The cat disallows me from making it sometimes.

Bonus cat pic:

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thoughtfullyjoyfulkitty

7 years ago

So many memories..

OK I have watched MANY videos and here it is for all you kids to learn your viral/meme video history, here are some premium vintage meme fodder:

Hampster Dance (1998) Rejected (2000) All Your Base (2001) Tidus Laughing (2001) The End of the World (2003) Badger Badger Badger (2003) Hyakugojyuuichi!!! (2003) GI Joe PSAs (2003) Llama Song (2004) Banana Phone (2004) Ddautta (There She Is!) (2004) Charlie the Unicorn (2005) Cillit Bang (2006) Caramelldansen (2006) Metal Gear Awesome (2006) Leekspin (2006) Marissa Stole the Precious Thing (2006) The Mysterious Ticking Noise (2007) Powerthirst (2007) Paffendorf (2007) Splash Attack (2007) Caipirinha Dance (2007) I Take a Potato Chip… (2007) Nico Nico Douga Medley (2007) Ronald McDonald Ran Ran Ru (2008) Danjo (2008) Giga Pudding (2008) The Ultimate Showdown (2008) Balsamic Vinegar (2008) Sakura-Con Commercial (2009) Shamwow (2009) Slapchop (2009) OK GO- Here It Goes Again (2009) Stu Making Chocolate Pudding at 4 AM (2010) HEYYEYAA (2010) Galo Sengan (2011)

There are probably more that I’m missing. Some of these videos are part of a series (GI Joe, Potter Puppet Pals) and I didn’t count shitty videos like those idiot laughing babies.

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thoughtfullyjoyfulkitty

7 years ago

The Truth behind the Signs

The loneliest people are the kindest: Virgo, Cancer, Aries, Gemini

The saddest people smile the brightest: Pisces, Leo, Taurus, Libra

The most damaged people are the wisest: Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius, Scorpio

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taurus Shit.. It knows my secret

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thoughtfullyjoyfulkitty

5 years ago

how dull for you to live your life without any hills to die on, you, on your vast flat barren plains of compromise, acceptance, and accommodation, while I reign supreme over the lush, rolling highlands of stupid shit I have irrationally chosen to stake my entire identity on

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thoughtfullyjoyfulkitty

7 years ago

What will happen to the signs in 2018 - The year of enlightenment

Achieve a major goal: Gemini, Aquarius, Scorpio, Sagittarius

Experience serious heart break: Taurus, Aries, Cancer

Experience a loss: Capricorn, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius, Cancer

Find their purpose in life: Libra, Scorpio, Virgo

Change due to trauma: Aries, Taurus, Capricorn, Gemini

Gain wisdom through lessons: Taurus, Cancer, Pisces, Sagittarius, Virgo

Serious change in environment: Taurus, Capricorn, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Gemini

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taurus Well this is accurate 3 out of the 4 have occurred/are ocurring - so when's the wisdom gonna show up?

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thoughtfullyjoyfulkitty

7 years ago

Way to go, Oz!! :)

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thoughtfullyjoyfulkitty

7 years ago

You are an anonymous professional assassin with a perfect reputation. You lead an ordinary life outside of your work. You’ve just been hired to kill yourself.

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