I Don’t Know Why I Did Another One Of These When I Could’ve Worked On An Update. Oh Well

one time i was hanging out with these two friends of mine, women i admire very much, and we reached this twilight zone moment where we realized that each of us had, at one point:

dated a man who treated us very badly

and for whom we made many sacrifices

and who we defended to our friends

because we needed to be supportive

of his “genius”

yes, he treated us badly but he was so smart and talented that maybe it was unfair to expect him to play by society’s rules, we told ourselves

and it felt kind of embarrassing to demand something as gauche as kindness (ugh) or maturity

from a “genius”

we lived in fear of being The Nagging Girlfriend/Wife Who Doesn’t Understand Her Man’s Unique Vision. 

you know, the woman from the first half of any biopic about a great man. the first wife, the one he divorces before act two.

instead we dreamed of being The Good, Supportive Girlfriend/Wife Who Knows Sometimes You Must Make Compromises. 

you know, the woman from the later half of any biopic about a great man. the second or sometimes third wife, depending on how long he lived or how many affairs he had.

it was genuinely chilling, because the longer we talked, the more it felt like all three of us had been handed the same invisible and very detailed script. we are all extremely liberal feminists and yet we’d still bought the whole narrative hook line and sinker, and i don’t think any of us fully realized how fucked up it was until we heard it from each other’s mouths. 

i should note, maybe, that these two friends of mine are two of the most brilliant, talented, competent people i know. they were, in both cases, just as brilliant as the boy they sacrificed for. also they were, in both cases, capable of maintaining this brilliance while still tending to their own needs like an adult and treating the people around them with a fundamental level of respect.

so in case it helps anyone out there right now, struggling white knuckled to last into the second half of an imagined Great Man biopic: there is no level of intelligence or skill high enough to exempt a man (or a woman or anyone anywhere else on the gender spectrum) from the basic requirements of human decency. i don’t care if he is moving shit around with the power of his mind like matilda, he still has to say “please” and “thank you” and consider the feelings of the people around him. if he cannot or will not do these things, he is not a genius, he is a baby. AT BEST.

also, you are not the love interest of this movie. you are the fucking protagonist.

And that’s where seenzone exist.

Fanart heroine in otome game (anime)

Yes, I want to be your friend. I want to be the friend you fall hopelessly in love with. The one you take into your arms and into your bed and into the private world you keep trapped in your head. I want to be that kind of friend.

Tahereh Mafi, Unravel Me (via books-n-quotes)

To live is to be courageous, to believe in yourself is bold.

Richard Adams, Watership Down (via books-n-quotes)

I don’t want to live like this, but I don’t want to die.

Vampire Weekend, Finger Back (via music-and-quotes)

The reason why introvert people were careful around strangers, even friends.

But what if I like awkward conversations?

The language of flowers..

Polite Society at Home and Abroad, 1891

warning, it’s long, but there’s a lot of really great specifics, like:

you are a fop good but odd you will cause my death I declare war against you intellectual but heartless false and gay handsome but dangerous your looks freeze me an enemy in disguise

Keep reading

So here it is! A pre game release comic that’s also more serious than funny. 

I’m really excited for this game!

Mandatory reminder that Patrons get early access to all future comics and art because tumblr won’t let me post direct links!

Finally~~~~~ ;_________; /

I rally love this movie it’s so gooddddd!!

when I hear the name I only think about Jiminy LOL XD (poor Hopebi )