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Hii angels ! I wanted to create this personally for me, and for all of you. 2020 was difficult, and moving on from that can require some major self reflection & work. Here’s how I’ll be working on myself & how you can too. 💗

Your Style/Aesthetic 🌸

Your style & aesthetic is important to YOU it’s how you go about buying yourself things, how you look at life, and what makes you unique ! Since 2021 is a new year, you may want to look into different styles & aesthetics that feel more fresh.

How to find your own (new) aesthetic and style :

Create lookbooks in your journal or pinterest.

Here’s an example of something I made :

When you find yourself ‘drawn’ to a certain piece of clothing, know that’s what you’re interested in ! Take note of it.

Go through your wardrobe & sell things that just aren’t your style anymore. After this you can use that money to buy clothes according to your potential new style.

Write down an ‘essentials’ list of all the pieces you KNOW you need. For example :

Plain ribbed crop top in white, black, and pink.

Knowing what colors you want in your wardrobe is very important. Like before, choose what you’re drawn to. Here’s some prissy girl essentials by @dreamgrlarchive

If you’re into this blog’s style, or the ‘pink & pretty glam’ style then check out this bratz style guide by @dreamgrlarchive 💗

Your Mental Health 🌸

I created a diagram for you to know what should & shouldn’t occupy your mind ! That’s you in the middle. Here’s what each thing represents :

What SHOULD be occupying your mind :

Nails - Taking care of yourself & participating in self care !

Water & Strawberries - Your health. Eating good and keeping yourself hydrated. Keep that in your mind ALWAYS.

Diary - Your journey as YOU. What are your current goals ? What makes you happy ? You should be writing this down somewhere. Either in your journal or phone.

Youtube - Watching positive people who inspire & motivate you.

What SHOULDN’T be occupying your mind :

Boys - Dudes who DON’T respect you & that waste your time, energy, and emotions.

Instagram - Social media influencers who cause you to compare yourself to them, toxic mutuals, and people you don’t like.

Clock - The past, don’t focus on the negative things in your past. When I say this I mean, don’t dwell on it. Journaling is a different story.

Mean girls - This just represents mean people in general, if someone doesn’t like you or says spiteful things about you, that’s not your problem. It’s their’s ! Forgive them and remain UNBOTHERED !

Try to re-program you brain to think like this ! It’ll protect your peace & happiness 💗.

Your Routines & Schedules 🌸

Your routines and schedules keep you accountable & on track. Creating a new routine for yourself can change your whole outlook on life !

Things to create / work on / fix :

Your sleeping schedule

Your workout routine

Morning + night skincare routine

Sunday reset ( laundry, cleaning your space, nail fill )

Affirmations / manifesting

How to go about these things :

Your sleeping schedule - Move your phone away from your bed. Keep yourself occupied ALL day until you go to sleep. ( so you’re not full of energy when you go to sleep )

Your workout routine - Download my workout planner here ( it’s free ) Watching youtube videos on workout exercises to find what works for you, and figuring out a realistic body goal is the best way to go. Learn more about diet & physique on this post by @dreamgrlarchive as well.

Morning + Night skincare routine - Watch skincare enthusiasts on Youtube and find products that’ll work for you. Also these posts :

5 rules of cleansing by @s0fthunny

Glowing within by @s0fthunny

Dealing with hyperpigmentation by @dreamgrlarchive

Sunday reset - Create a cleaning routine for your space and do this every sunday. Also a spa/nail routine can be added. My cleaning routine post is here

Affirmations / manifesting - If you’re interested in this, I recommend getting a journal dedicated to it. Find a good set of affirmations, write them, then read them out loud whenever you want. As for manifesting, you can read this post by @mulabby

Always remember to treat yourself like a princess !

Here’s a list of affirmations I’ve created for you all

Selfcare & Behavior 🌸

The way you carry & take care of yourself is very important. You want to be respected and valued, you deserve it ! Acting a sophisticated way is important, but controlling who you give your energy to is just as important.

Things that help you show confidence :

Good posture

Eye contact

Acknowledging the other person’s statements/body language

Important selfcare tips for going out/presenting yourself to the public :

Wearing your staple perfume/mist

Brushed teeth, with a mint or gum

Wearing clean, wrinkle free, clothing that compliments your body

Wearing a mask lol

( I do this even if I’m inside )

Self care habits that don’t involve products :

Reading affirmations to yourself

Journaling good and bad things everyday ( self reflection )

Staying hydrated

Your behavior

Don’t talk down or bad about others. Even if they do you wrong, keeping your thoughts to yourself and journaling them can save a lot of trouble, misconception, and self sabotage.

Just because you’re kind and respectful, doesn’t mean you have to be friendly and approachable. For jobs, yes that’s important obv, but when you’re out and about you have no obligation to feel other’s insecure, jealous energy.

There’s three main things to make sure your behavior and atitude is healthy :

*disclaimer: this applies to people you’re looking into becoming friends/aquatinted with*

Respect. Respect other people’s boundaries, choices, and journey. It’s not cute to be a toxic ‘idgaf about you’ person. Treat people how you would like to be treated.

Kindness. Dont judge others by their looks, if someone is a genuine person asking you something or coming to you for guidance, even if you’re declining, still be kind.

Understanding. Being understanding of someone else’s position & feeling empathy for others. This goes back to treating others the way you would like to be treated. Empathy is very important in every friendship, you want to comfort them & be involved with their ups and downs, it creates a stronger bond.

Be careful with who you’re involving yourself with ! If you get an off feeling, take a step back and remind yourself of your boundaries. 💗

I hope you enjoyed this post, I wanted to make lil collages n stuff. Lmk if you need help with anything else, my inbox is open. Mwah. 💓

“Those poor boys”

“She deserves to be punished too.”

“I’m not saying I support rape, but-”

“Sorry to say - she deserved it.”

“She put herself in harm’s way”

“But if she was fingered, then that’s not rape.”

“She ruined their lives.”

  *I’ve revamped my Masterlist as it was getting a little lengthy lol. I now have created Sublists instead. Just simply click on the fandom of your choosing and all of my fics will be there. Happy reading! 

Holidrabbles

Throne of Glass

A Court of Thorns and Roses

The Folk of the Air

Misc. Fandoms

If you would like to send in a prompt or be on my taglist for any future fics. Please let me know. I will accept prompts for the any of the fandoms on my masterlist.  I am also including Crescent City, Serpent & Dove, Red,White and Royal Blue, to my list of fandoms I’ll write for.

You may also find all of my works, including Got and hp fics on my ao3.

reposting my tfota playlists for you guys <3

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THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

“She loves to PLAY with (not eat) cherries 🍒” 

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