“Self-inserting & OC inserting is cringy”
Apparently “spite” is not an ‘appropriate answer’ to “What motivates you?”
hystericalnoisemaker:
drparisa:
lakidaa:
people who know who my OCs are
people who like my OCs
people who like to know more about my OCs
I am by no means trying to tell you what you should and should not do, nor am I aiming to police the internet. If you’re comfortable with some of the following, that’s fine but this is a list based on my own personal experiences and what I have learned from them and it’s to help as a warning to those who might not know what to look out for as they’re new to RPing.
((If you choose to reblog this post for others to see you may do so only on the condition that you do not tag or mention anyone who you feel is one of these partners. This is not a call out freebee, that’s not what this post is for!))
These are Partners who become easily jealous when your muse interacts with other muses. They don’t like the idea that your blog is a multiverse/ship blog because theirs is not or whatever reason they give for it. They might even go as far as to contact others anonymously to tell them to leave you alone without even consulting you first. Some of these parters appear to become upset or aggressive when you don’t know everything about their muse or you refuse a plot suggestion from them. They will try to isolate you in such a way that you are only able to write with them.
Those that don’t like what has happened in a thread or that you’re writing with someone they don’t like and then threaten to leave the site if things don’t change. That it would be your fault if anything happens to them or their blog, even threats to alter their muses relationship with yours. This is an attempt to control how and who you interact with. This is manipulative behaviour and should not be stood for.
These partners are those that come up with the plots only they control everything in the plot, your muse isn’t allowed to actually be your muse because it effects their muse or their plot. In the end you must consider if you are writing your muse or if you are writing an NPC for them. You owe these people nothing you don’t want to give, no matter how controlling or guilt tripping they then become when you confront them.
Similar to the Game Masters, these partners smother your muse with threads but every single one of them is centred around the needs of their muse and not yours. While their muse grows and develops, there’s no breathing room for yours to do the same. You burn yourself out in keeping up with their threads but don’t feel like you or your muse are getting anything in return.
They ask for all of your URLs and it can be quite flattering, only they become annoyed if they find another blog of yours elsewhere you haven’t mentioned, or that you don’t interact with them through a certain muse of yours. These people might just be excited and eager to write with you but they have no right to expect you to do so on any of your blogs.
This one always, always plays the victim ooc. Whatever you do that they don’t agree with suddenly turns into vague blogging, sending anonymous messages, setting their friends on you or blatantly ignoring you in the IMs. It turns into a public call out post in which they expect their followers to side with them no matter what and deny you the chance to explain your side of the situation, yet they do not block or unfollow you, wanting to see the chaos play out. When eventually reasoned with, this usually results in a sob story from them in order to get your supposed forgiveness and as if you might return to everything as normal… beware the apparent victim.
These are the partners who blend whatever is happening in character into out of character things. Sometimes it is just a one off and many, many people have done it in the past, but when it keeps happening there should be red flags and warning bells ringing. If your partner cannot differentiate between OOC and IC expect considerable drama!
you don’t know what it’s like,
having everything ʀɪᴘᴘᴇᴅ ᴀᴡᴀʏ like that.
Fall Away, Twenty One Pilots
Shamed and defaced! Scathed and disgraced! Tainted by hatred and can’t be erased!
burnbooking:
this is something that i’ve been meaning to talk about for a while now. it’s begun to weigh heavily in the community that i write in as well as those of others. it’s the idea that we should take pride in callout culture and completely obliterating accounts. that a callout post needs to be written for any and all transgressions, that one half of a story is gospel, and that roleplayers can be judged as problematic by association.
let’s start with face-saving apologies. the type of apology that a roleplayer will half-assedly give just to have a receipt of one. to appease those they hurt when the harm was intentional and in no way plan on improving themselves as a person. the kind of apology that is issued so they will sympathized with rather than ridiculed. these apologies are absolute bullshit. if you’re going to vague or be a bully or act out, own your behavior. i’m aware this sounds hypocritical coming from a burn book but what happens on the dash is a lot different than sending something to us. when posting on the dash your content is broadcasted to a direct audience. the same community. here, it gets thrown into an aggregate void and spat back out. don’t vague or talk behind someone’s back and believe that it won’t get around to them.
it shouldn’t be a goal to attack someone over petty shit. don’t criticize people for liking or not liking something that isn’t heavily problematic. you can dislike the vampire diaries but write with a stefan salvatore. you can hate damon salvatore as a character and still like the vampire diaries. what doesn’t need to happen is posting harmless opinions on your own blog and then being attacked for them. if someone is so hurt over another rper disliking their fandom then maybe roleplay isn’t for that person. stop being so fucking petty.
to attempt to destroy a persons reputation over hurt feelings is a stupid, selfish thing to do. keep your friend circle bullshit in your friend circle. nobody needs to be put on blast or shunned for actions that were not purposely or outright abusive or otherwise disturbing. you cannot claim to be looking out for your own mental health by seeking to turn people against another roleplayer who may have hurt your feelings. not only is it immature, it puts the other person’s mental health at risk and while some people on this website believe that the world revolves around them, i can assure you that it does not. nobody in this blue hellscape is judge or jury.
finally, it saddens me as well as the other mods to hear constantly from people who have been turned on by their friends and partners and are now having panic attacks because they’re afraid that they’re being slandered in private; that i, as well as many of my close friends, have become too paranoid to interact with certain people after negative experiences with roleplayers similar to them; that we’re still having to hear that people are being called “abusive” and “manipulative” and “toxic” for hurting another roleplayer’s feelings accidentally or handling a situation badly and then having such critical language thrown on their name.
behind every roleplay account is a person with a life and family and friends and feelings. they’re not merely account names to drag through the mud. think before you wild out or gossip or act like an asshole. it’s not all that difficult to have some god damn tact everyone once in a while.
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