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We too old for this lying shit, boo. Do you want me or not?

I respect those that tell the truth, no matter how hard it is.

(via dopy)

A guy at work once told me, “I wish you didn’t know how hot you are”. I laughed and asked why. He said, “Because when girls like you know how sexy you are, you have all the power.”

Remember that, ladies.

You’re all beautiful and don’t let an ugly man make you feel anything less than that because you’re not giving him what he wants. They’ll try to make you feel like you’re not worth what you’re asking and that’s because THEY’RE not worth it.

Keep your head high, standards high and know your worth.

Much love xoxo

Shout out to the boyfriends who unconditionally love their girlfriends while she’s still learning how to love herself... You are appreciated.

something better is coming. the key is to work hard, take the necessary steps to get there, and trust that you deserve all the goodness coming to you. let go of all worry or doubt. what you want is already yours!

Hello my sugar babes!

I just want to thank God for blessing me again but my NY guy gave me $1600 for 2 hours!!!!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!

I had plans with my gfs to go out but the NY guy called. He told me he would give me $1600 for 2 hours! So sweet. I’m having a prosperous June! He was staying at the Four Seasons in Beverly Hills. He comes to LA monthly so it’ll be nice seeing him again!

The next $10,000 I’m buying VFIAX & VSMAX. It’s a mutual fund for min $10,000. You know me girls! SAVE SAVE SAVE!

I bought $200 worth Target stuff on my bf’s Postmates account. I try my best not to spend my own money!

Date these SDs

I’ve never done ppm. I’ve never done “x allowance for y meets per month”. I wouldn’t do them now. If you really want a guys financial attention long term, make them care about you. Let them take care of you. Don’t let them know they’re paying for it. It doesn’t matter if he told you he loved you, that’s lust. Once it gets too expensive or the new shiny bauble comes by, you’re history.

If you want that to last, you need to make yourself indispensable to these men. You need them to think that you’re a one and only. You also need them to forget they’re paying you. Most men will quickly grow tired of their wallets being the only way to get his attention. Yes by then you might have gotten a lot of cash out of him, but think about how much more you could have gotten.

I’m not saying be clingy, i’m not saying be lovey dovey, i’m saying be special. become an integral part of their life, so those bank transfers feel normal, like paying bills, not like paying this girl to be nice to me. Don’t do nice things because they buy you stuff or give you cash. You might think that’s counter-intuitive but consider it. (Most of) These men aren’t stupid. they can tell that you only stay over when you get offered a gift. They can tell that you only responded to them when they said they’d send you a gift card. They can tell you only care about the money. And, unless he’s a financial submissive, he’s gonna drop a girl after a while if all she values in him is his cash.

That’s why I encourage you girls to get off these sugar sites. I’m not saying you can’t make money off them, i’m just saying the payoff to how much work you have to do is low. most SRs these days are just long term escort client relationships. Don’t be afraid to break the mold and actually date these dudes. You get so much more money when you actually mean something to them and aren’t just another piece of ass they have to pay for.

Dating these dudes is why I retired, its why I’m starting multiple businesses, it’s why I can comfortable stop working completely and not have my bank account go low. Spoiled GF gets you the most buck for your bang. 

Christian Louboutin Masterpost

“People say I am the king of painful shoes. I don’t want to create painful shoes, but it is not my job to create something comfortable. I try to make high heels as comfortable as they can be, but my priority is design, beauty and sexiness. I’m not against them, but comfort is not my focus.”

The only man who has every really been honest about the extent of his downfall. This post is an update of an old post. Now, for some reason I picture Louboutins being every SB’s first go to pair of designer shoes. Why? Because they are sexy, gorgeous and the bottoms make any man want to bow down. That being said, they are the MOST painful pair of heels I have ever owned. So every little step to stretch/protect them has been worth it. 

How to Make Heels More Comfortable As he said, louboutin’s will never be comfortable heels - they are not supposed to be. But, here are some tips and tricks you can use to make them a little less uncomfortable. Before we start, I have the So Kate that I wear to functions/dinners/events aka events where I can sit for long periods of time without looking out of place. 1. If your pair has a narrow front, you will need to stretch the leather. If you want to be a badass, then you can stuff your feet in and walk around for hours and eventually make them form - you will hate yourself. OR, you can use the extra help. Double up on some socks, stuff your feet in and shift all of your weight to the front of your feet. Using your blow dryer, apply high heat directly to the shoe. Make sure to relocate weight to the front of the shoe, the back will stretch as well! IF it stretches too much (that’s okay), then use fashion tape on the back to prevent sliding of your foot. I think it is better to stretch too much then not as all and with the tape, you’ll never notice the difference. 

2. Beauty is pain ladies and these epitomize both. Bandage your third and fourth toes with some medical tape, removes pressure from the nerves. You’ll hold out longer.

3. INSOLES for these brand of heels are a MUST. I didn’t realize how much of a difference they made until I did not wear them. HUGE HUGE HUGE difference.

4. When you are walking, be aware of your posture. If you’re an SB then your posture should always been good, in or out of heels. That being said, in these heels relocating your weight to your heel with an erect back makes it less painful. If you’re not used to this then this would feel awkward but you’ll get used to it - I promise. 

How to Protect Your Red Bottoms 

Yes, I like saving money. However, I chose not to go to the cobbler because they wanted to charge me 70 for the base. And, they would not have been able to protect my babies in time. You can do this for under $12, without any damage to the red after. 

Buy the ZAGG InvisibleShield Military Grade Screen Protector (I recommend this brand only because it’s the only one I know that will NOT damage the red.)  

You will want to buy the OG iPad case just in case you mess up, you can do it more than once. OK, so what you will do is clean the bottom of your shoes with a damp cloth and then outline them on the non-sticky part of the protector. DO NOT ACCIDENTALLY BUY THE GLASS PROTECTOR. Now, it is arts and craft time and you will cut out the base the outline of your shoes. Peel the plastic away, spray spray spray your shoes with the provided solution and slowly apply the sticky face, while being aware of air bubbles. You will want to use your windshield wiper thing to remove as many of the air bubbles as possible.

These are my protected So Kate that I have worn so many times and they still look perfect. It may have costed me more time but saved me a little bit of cash money. DISCLAIMER: If you are walking on floors in a kitchen/restaurant that could be greasy then you will want to be EXTRA careful. When you scruff the bottom, you get the real grip of these shoes. But when the bottom has the protector on then there is a little less traction. 

If you want a rich man,

then look and act like a rich woman. Have great style, good confidence, a pleasant attitude, hold your head high, keep your appearance up, eat well, and command every room you walk in. I don’t even go to the gas station unless I have makeup on. You never know who you’d meet when in public.

Renaming HK. He’s now Mr. Gabs. He talked my ear off this weekend. I won’t see him now until September but he left me a little over 4K. I’m both sad and relieved he’s gone. He’s a bit clingy and needy but ultimately very sweet. Won’t say no to me for anything. Butttt I’m officially on a cleanse now after a weekend full of rich meals and no gym. Salads for days 😒 Mr. Positivity might fly me out either middle or end of this month or both. Kinda hoping the latter. That’d put me at 8K for the month of July..

🤔she ain’t wrong

Pay attention ladies. This will save you from any faux pas and slip ups

Babies, don’t let yourselves be manipulated by men like this one. They’re operating on the hope that you hate the money talk more than they do. They’re hoping you’re too uncomfortable. I wonder how many times he’s used the line about true love on newer SBs, and I wonder how many times it’s worked. Hopefully the ratio is shit. Stick to your guns. Remind them that your time is valuable and that if they’re a man of real means, they should have no problem with what you propose. I’m newer, but I’m not so new that I’m naive or desperate. 

I first just want to thank God for blessing me so much but I made $4600 last night!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m so fucking happy!!!!!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉

So on my earlier post I mentioned to you guys that I went to a home high limit poker game and worked as a waitress there. So I took my own advice and I texted a few people to see where else I can work. So this girl got back to me to work a poker game with Persian guys. I went there and my eyes kept matching with this guy. He waved over to me and would tip $100. I asked him if he wanted a drink and he said no. Then the third time he gave me money again and said, “STAY” in a stern voice. So I just stood behind him. Then he told me how he just flew in from Dubai and he was tired. And he asked me where I went to school. I told him I never finished school because I didn’t want to go into to debt. He told me school was very important. He asked me how much school was in the US and I told him USC is $50k. Then he told me he will give me $20k a month and he told me to stop working the poker games. He told me he never wants to see me here again! He made me cash out my $600 2 hours into the game and he made me hang out with him. He promised me another $4k by the end of the night.

Well ladies… he delivered. I came home with $4600. He promised to see me again. We’ll see. I’ll be super grateful.

He told me he’s looking for someone to take care of travel with him. He’s not married and single in his 40’s (I’m in my 30’s). He said I would be getting over $20k a month + shopping. But as we all know we get promised in millions and they deliver in thousands… we’ll see. I’m hopeful.

This goes back to my proximity. You need to hang around where rich men are! I’m going to delete my SA. For the time time I spend and the money I get back it’s a joke.

I’m sending on my positive blessed energy to you ladies so you will have good luck too!!!!!!!!! I hope we all make it.

Energy flows to where your attention goes!

How to Become His Dream Girl, Even if You’re Not (A Spoiled GF Guide)

so recently, within the past 2 months I have successfully become a spoiled gf, this (surprisingly) was a whole lot easier than I thought it would be, but using this technique (that I kind if made up) I broke it down into some simple steps :)

STEP ONE: Pick someone you wont mind spending a considerable amount of time with

- Realize that this isn’t a sugar daddy, this man wants to have a full on relationship with you, therefore you will be spending a large amount of time with him so you WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIM. So just make sure that he is someone you can handle without wanting to strangle after 45 minutes.

STEP TWO: Charm the fuck out of him, then have him open up to you

- You have to make him want you, be alluring and kind. smile at him, laugh at his jokes, compliment him on shit that you might not even care about. Right now you are selling a prophecy, an introduction to a relationship. Make yourself sound as interesting as possible but leave him always wanting more, always have him talk about himself more than you talk about yourself. try to pick up on little things and get a read on his emotional status and how he chooses to react to certain situations, learn about him so you can mold yourself into his dream woman. Once he sees your “genuine” interest in him, he will start opening up to you and THIS is where you’ll really need to pay attention.

STEP THREE: Find out what intimate part of his life is missing

- THIS IS KEY LADIES AND GENTLEMAN!!! You will have to figure out what relationship related snippet is really missing. In my case my sugar boyfriend (ill call him T) was married for 10+ years and never really got what he wanted out of the marriage and was constantly lied to, but ended up staying on behalf of his 4 step kids. after getting divorced he dated a stripper who just used him for his money even though he supposedly had “genuine” feelings for her. After learning about his tragic love history I came to the conclusion that what he really needed out of a relationship was mutual affection and to feel valued. KEEP IN MIND, THIS STEP CAN TAKE A WHILE AND INCLUDES LOTS OF TRIAL AND ERROR. So after coming up with my hypothesis of the lack of value and affection, I decided to put it to the test and did 2 simple things in order to do so. first, while he was at work, I called him to see how his day was going. You would have thought I was god himself calling because he was so happy to hear from me and to hear that I was thinking about him and that I took the time out to call him and let him know that. Second, I cooked him dinner. One day while I was staying at his house I decided to surprise him with a very basic meal (frozen salmon fillets and sautéed bell peppers) and yet again, he was so happy and excited at the fact that I had done that for him. This is when I knew I was on the home stretch

STEP FOUR: Focus on the missing intimate piece, and make it your specialty

- This is what has him keep you around, doing the things that he needed but never got. don’t get me wrong, I’m not cooking this man dinner everyday, instead I switch it up and substitute certain actions. He loves affection, so when we’re sitting on the couch together ill lay my head on his lap, or hold his hand and stroke the side of his face. I’ve learned that simple shit like that makes him incredibly happy, which makes him incredibly generous.

STEP FIVE: Get Spoiled

- Now after giving him a taste of life with you in it, you need to give him a taste of how much your life costs. By now he’s showered you in nice dinners and gifts on the whim, but you’re here for the kill, you want a access to the finances and for him to get you whatever you want. For me, this was by far the easiest step out of all of them, I told him I wanted to go shopping and that I needed some stuff from Lush and Sephora (he had no idea what either of those places were) AND HERE IS WHERE YOU GET HIM. Make sure he sees how expensive it is just to be you, talk to him about your favorite products and what you need and use on the daily (hype them up in price too, like if you need foundation and you usually use L'Oréal, rave about the Gorgio Armani foundation instead) make it seem like your mere existence is expensive, by now this man wants to take care of you and wants to keep you in his life and therefore will do what it takes to keep you near and dear. Once he see’s how “hard” it is to be you, he will make it easier

At this point in my relationship with T, I am nearly moved into his house and have full usage of his ex-wife’s Lexus and his credit card, and tomorrow I get to meet his mother. Once you get on the right path of knowing what a man is missing in this life, you’ll be able to use that to your advantage and have him truly believe that you’re the woman of his dreams, even if you’re just a Faux Heaux :)

✨🙏🏻✨ Ho Ho Ho Ho ✨😍💸✨

Investing in yourself as a Sugar Baby!

Taking care of your mind and body is important especially when you expect men to drop thousands of dollars on you every month for the pleasure of your company! Personally before even thinking about becoming a sugar baby this year, I’ve been taking care of myself for years because appearance is very important in my line of work. Keep in mind that I’m in my late 20s so some stuff you might not even need at this point since most of you are in your late teens or early 20s. Enjoy those years haha well I can’t complain, I have a baby face ;) So here is a list of things I’ve done or I will be starting this year that keeps me looking good and feeling awesome plus it makes for a hot SB:

Manicure + pedicure - I do them professionally in a salon every 3weeks.

Laser hair removal - I’m doing my whole bikini and underarms right now and will start my legs in the next year..shaving is a pain and too much work..laser is painful especially the whole bikini but worth it!

Removing stretch marks - I will do laser for that when I move to LA because those stupid marks on my butt are a pain in the ass for my confidence sometimes..I have awesome 34DD natural breasts but my ass needs some perfecting to be at the same level lol

Removing cellulite - I just finished a 10 weeks treatment with the Velashape 2 in a beauty clinic for my thighs and butt..I think it helped although I only had a low amount of cellulite and it’s still not perfect or all gone..I think I was expecting too much of a VS model’s perfect ass haha drinking water, exercising and eating healthy plus putting firming body cream (I use an expensive one from my clinic with 10% caffeine) everyday helps plus I’ll need to do maintenance treatments every year to maintain the results.

Removing spider veins on legs - I started treatments this year, it helps but spider veins are a recurring issue for women especially with age so I will have to do maintenance treatments every year but it’s very good that I started young even if I didn’t have a lot but the ones behind my knees were bothering me a lot. I have very white skin so my veins show easily haha I need to tan more!

Dermabrasion - I started dermabrasion aka removing dead skin on your face this year..I used to have bad acnee when I was young but now my skin is much better although I still get occasional pimples and don’t have perfect skin without makeup.

Acnee creams recommended by my dermatologist that I apply every day or 2 days - I mostly only have some redness and occasional pimples but the products help for that and to make my pores less visible.

Laser eye surgery - I wear contacts and I’m thinking of doing the laser surgery but I’m not sure since lots of people have horror stories so I’m still thinking about it but being free of glasses and contacts would be awesome..I’m just scared of surgeries and try to avoid them as much as possible.

Spray Tan - I don’t want skin cancer so I prefer spray tan when I need to have a nice tan although the maintenance is a pain in the butt..I sometimes do tanning creams at home since I’m pretty good at applying it but that’s annoying to maintain also.

Gym membership - I started going to the gym finally this year although I have always had a pretty athletic body but since I like to eat wtv I want and I’m getting older lol I need to watch out!!

Personal trainer for the gym - I’m going to get one soon so I can learn what to do to target the issues I want to work on plus it’s good to have someone to motivate you since I’m lazy lol

Martial arts or self defense classes - Personally I do martial arts because it’s for my line of work but also because I love to kick ass. I took some self defense classes years ago and it was amazing..I think every woman should do that especially sex workers and SBs..I actually need to brush up on those moves especially the ones when your assailant is on top of you.

Hair and eyelash extensions - I need to get new hair extensions because the hair dresser messed them up when she cut them although I basically never wear them lol too lazy to put them on every time so I’ll look into other options soon and get a SD to pay for it and for eyelash extensions. Never tried that and want to see how it will look and feel.

Makeup and hair tutorials or classes - I started watching more videos on youtube to learn more tricks especially with hair since I suck but I’m getting a lot better..I might get a future SD to pay a hairstylist to show me 5-10 ways to do my hair haha.

Good hair products and makeup - Start investing in good products that don’t ruin your hair and face..When you can it’s good to invest in more expensive products when they are better quality and less chemicals.

Keeping your body soft like a baby’s skin - I put cream every night on my body to keep my body all smooth and soft plus to keep my boobs, stomach, thighs and ass all firm..better to start young!

Facial creams - Very important to keep your face moisturized plus eye cream is always good to start young..those SDs want a baby face not a face ruined by sun and age.

Drinking lots of water - You need minimum 2 liters of water everyday..I basically only drink water..no coffee or soft drinks but juices on occasion and I do love wine when I go out.

Eating healthy - I need to be more disciplined for that because I like to eat wtv I want although I do eat vegetables and fruits everyday.

Be happy and confident - Keep yourself healthy mentally..those men pay for no drama..I actually tried hypnotherapy by curiosity this year..only did 4 sessions to work on my self-esteem and confidence and it was pretty interesting to realize how I bring myself down sometimes.

Teeth are very important! Having a nice smile attracts people including SDs! - Keep your teeth clean and white..I do my teeth cleaning every 9 months now (instead of 12) plus I bought a whitening kit made for me from my dentist to use at home although my teeth are pretty white already. I had braces when I was young so I have perfect teeth..I wear my night retainer occasionally to keep them straight and perfect. 

Massages and acupuncture - I did both this year and need to start doing massages every 2 weeks for my back lol I’ll get a SD to pay for that!

Investing in a new wardrobe - Dressing the part is important and you need something to wear for all those awesome dates you will be going on! Get a SD or POT to take you shopping and choose classic pieces that you will be able to mix and match and pull off multiple outfits with. If you don’t have anyone to pay for it, take some of your money and start buying some nice pieces or even just adding an accessory to your outfit might make the difference. You don’t have to buy expensive brands (wait for a SD to do that for you), until then buy pieces that are good quality and in solid neutral colors. Go for classy not trashy!

Reading more about current events, finances and how to invest money but also some of those self help books. Be aware of what is going on in the world. - I need to start doing this more because I personally don’t follow the news or politics (too depressing) plus I want to learn how to manage my money. It’s always good to be able to hold a conversation with a SD especially if you go to events with him! You want to be the whole package of looks, brains and personality!!

Learning new skills is important in my opinion plus it keeps you busy and SDs will be impressed by your hobbies, interests and skills. - Personally I love reading, cooking (I want to take some classes to get even better), dancing (I took a lot of different dance classes but I want to learn the waltz and other more conservative dances for black tie events), learning new languages (I speak multiple languages and it always impresses people especially in the US for some reason), etc.. With my line of work, I like to acquire new skills as often as I can so I can add them to my CV and stand out..plus it’s fun!

Ok so I’m going to stop here because this post is freaking long lol I’ll add more if I think about something else but just remember that you are selling a product which is yourself and you need to stand out! Being a SB is not just about looking pretty..you have to be interesting too! I see a lot of SD’s profiles that mention personality and not just looks. So take care of yourself mentally and physically :) You got to invest in yourself (the product) to make money..that’s how marketing and business work and it’s the same with sugar dating! Pay your bills and then use some of that allowance on bettering yourself to catch an even bigger fish (or whale lol)!! Go get them girls! xoxo

Calling all sugars!

What type of investments do you suggest? Any type of ideas are welcome....

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do u ever think back on old conversations with people and think “oh! foreshadowing. that was real life foreshadowing.”

"you want to demonize white people-"

stopped reading. deleted.

white people don’t need my help to be demonized. there’s all…. -waves in general direction of centuries of colonialism, imperialism, racism, and current globalized capitalism- ….that.